The Unbearable Humptiness of Being

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See, that’s what the app is perfect for.

Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna
sushigrade
sushigrade

“A fox’s teeth are very sharp.” (2013-2019) Silk filament on silk-hemp blend with hand-dyed silk chiffon scarf.  Text is Sandman: The Dream Hunters by @neil-gaiman, design inspired by illustrations of Yoshitaka Amano.  Dress by L.L.K.  Photo credit to Kenneth Williams.

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Six years ago, my unbelievably talented wife decided to undertake a ridiculously long and complicated project: to embroider a story onto a dress.

We live in a very casual college town where no one ever dresses up for anything, so we began a tradition of throwing formal New Year’s Eve parties, and L being L, she made a dress every year. In 2013, she decided to take it a step further: she would create a dress inspired by Neil Gaiman and Yoshitaka Amano’s Sandman: The Dream Hunters and then embroider the entire story onto the dress. The dress itself was the work of a few weeks and looked beautiful on her at the party, and then the real work began: planning, mapping, embroidering and embroidering and embroidering. She estimated it would take approximately ten years of doing needlework an hour or two each evening, leaving plenty of time to take nights or even months off. She finished in under six.

I can’t summon words to describe how proud of her I am right now. I mean, I am always proud of her, as she is an exceptionally kind and caring human being as well as a polymath (seamstress, carpenter, baker, programmer, naturalist, and tenured professor of biology), but she has created a true work of art and I hope it ends up in a museum somewhere to immortalize her talent, skill, and patience.

She’s currently trying to figure out her next project.

neil-gaiman

I wish I could find the words to say how remarkable and touching and glorious this is for me. I’m still proud of the story and so honoured to see it made into a dress…

sushigrade

Safe to say that the creator of the dress has gotten a better Christmas present than I could have ever purchased for her.

I’m still going to try to find her a good bandsaw, though. Now that she’s done constructing an exactingly measured scale replica of our house and yard, complete with slope, out of craft foam board and card stock, she’s been talking about getting back into woodworking… as soon as she’s finished with her *other* fabric project, v. 4 of her replica of the Fortuny Delphos gown, a form-fitting dress where the elasticity of the fabric comes entirely from micro-pleating the silk (painstakingly, by hand, which is apparently the only way she does things). The technique was lost when Fortuny died in 1949, but L has managed to recreate it. (To be fair, she adds, Fortuny’s company has also managed to replicate the technique.) And both the Delphos gown and the Dream Hunters dress should be on display at the Tompkins County Public Library in Ithaca, NY sometime in 2020 as part of an exhibit on folktales and mythology.

sushigrade

Unsurprisingly, the exhibit was delayed by the pandemic, but it’s up now!

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The exhibit is called Fit For a Goddess, and is all mythology/fairytale-inspired textile art.

The Fortuny dress is dyed with pomegranate that’s been saddened (mordanted with iron), and so she called it Persephone’s Tears.

I’m so proud of her!

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curlsabroad
anarchywoofwoof

nihilism is not punk. doomerism is not punk. quitting is not punk.

the stark reality is that if they announced there was 24 hours before a giant comet hit the earth, i would find reason to fight and advocate and celebrate in the ensuing chaos up to the final seconds.

punk is walking into every situation and punching it in the mouth regardless of how big it is or the dominion it holds over your existence.

punk is hope and growth and love and fury and anger and passion and spit in the face of hostile forces.

punk is community and mutual aid and soup kitchens and block parties and festivals and little libraries and clothes drop boxes.

punk is dancing on the deck of a sinking ship because hey you motherfuckers i didn’t hear the music stop.

punk is having the hope for something better on behalf of those who can’t see it right now.

punk is not dead. punk is not dead. punk is not dead. punk is not dead. punk is not dead. punk is not dead.

lilacblossoms
wongbal

Star Trek TOS: what if the captain was a slut who got in fights all the time and did whatever the hell he wanted and it all sort of worked out anyway

TNG: what if the captain drank tea and gave speeches instead

DS9: what if the captain was a single father and religious figure trying to hold onto his morals in the face of an existential threat

Voyager: what if the captain was trying to get her unruly scout troop back home and also she had a GUN

Enterprise: what if the captain was a massive dweeb

Kelvin timeline: what if the first guy was actually a horny frat boy

Disco: what if the captain was a cryptofascist? no wait, what if he was just sooooooo handsome, like so mind-meltingly handsome that is just feels unfair? wait, what if he was a deer? no actually what if she did whatever the hell she wanted, but also felt emotions about it?

Picard: what if the captain was a secondary character driven into solitude by his PTSD, and then we suddenly replaced him with some dipshit from Chicago

Lower Decks: what if the captain was your well-meaning perfectionist mother

Prodigy: what if the captain was a purple teenager

SNW: what if the captain was your dad

northchef
bluenightcomedies

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thought they needed a little reminder that they still have far more to lose if they double down on this stupidity.

spread the word, it seems they're... very forgetful about this.

unlettered-heathen

A small collection (feel free to add):

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thatonepsychouptheroad

@staff You're not very subtle.

dwarf-scum

I can’t remember who wrote it, but I saw a post going around saying that like, it’s probably not a conspiracy, it’s probably just automated moderation trained on transphobic data, which is worse. It also means that there is likely no easy and convenient fix; if there’s not a “culprit” to fire or reprimand, then it’s the slow, hard process of dismantling a bad system and replacing it with a better one. Which is not to say it can’t or shouldn’t be done, because it absolutely can, should, and must! But it’s going to require staff to put in the work, and while it might take a while, it would be nice if they would at least commit publicly to fixing this issue.

deobitec
farmlesbians

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worst news ever

transjoel

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botflymother

once again saying. stop using spotify. the 1-2 punch of bandcamp and piracy is cool and good. renting access to your music library is bad and spotify is at the point where it needs to actually become profitable or its going to collapse. and its not going to become profitable. its going to get worse and more expensive and then collapse taking your entire library with it. get ahead of it start building an offline music library before your current rented library gets ethered

get a list of everything in your library so you can find the music again elsewhere. i dont have spotify so i cant test it but something like this

http://www.streamexport.com/

curlsabroad
szczyrkowa

i am totally going to come across as a boomer in this post but as an engineer it's common sense to not build systems with a single point of failure. and i'm starting to realize that our usage of the smart phone is exactly that. a single point of failure. the calling/texting is the implied function of the smartphone, which is fine. that's what it's built for. but nowadays we don't think to keep a physical map or atlas or gps unit in our car because our phone has google maps. we don't keep address books anymore because it's all stored in our contacts. i serve customers who no longer carry a wallet/physical card because it's all on their phone. this is literally a single point of failure. if you lose or break your phone when you are in a foreign place you are fucking screwed. maybe you're still screwed even in your home town because so many people have become accustomed to using a smart phone to take them anywhere.

seananmcguire
animentality

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beneaththegildedmoon

From my experience what these people actually want is confirmation that their experiences were normal and correct and that it's the world that has gone wrong. That's why confronting them with the fact that actually how they were treated was literally abuse makes them so upset, they don't want to acknowledge that they were (and often still are) victims of people and systems outside their control. They were raised with the mindset that to admit something hurt you was a weakness. They were raised to believe that suffering through hardship silently is a sign of good character and strength. They want to be praised for being so strong, not sympathised with for being so hurt, they just don't know what to do with that massive shift in perspective

curlsabroad
drill-teeth

You know. Some people could really stand to get more comfortable with the idea of “you shouldn’t say that because it’s mean”. Especially with really common body shaming and straight up bullying lines.

“You shouldn’t make ugly bald jokes because what if a transman on T sees it!”

“You shouldn’t make virgin jokes because what if someone who’s asexual sees it!”

How about you just don’t make them because they’re mean. How about people can be balding or a virgin for a number of reasons and also don’t deserve to be routinely made fun of. How about saying that the reason you shouldn’t make x joke because it spares x specific identity’s feelings also let’s them know that you actually have no problem saying or thinking bald people are ugly or virgins are stupid or etc but you’re just not saying it in front of them. How about you understand this kind of body shaming and bullying especially in a very public setting online are always going to have way more unintended damage to people who did nothing wrong than damage to the person you’re upset with.

Sometimes the best reason to not make a bad joke like that is because it’s fucking mean.